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Tuesday, December 31, 2019
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Sunday, March 31, 2019
Being Selfless to be Selfish
Sounds contradicting, right?
You may be asking how in the world can you be selfless and selfish at the same time. Undeniably my exact sentiments then, until it hits me. I am not that selfless. I am also selfish. Selfishly selfless.
I always regard myself as selfless for thinking of others first before myself: family, career, friends, and people I care about. I'd rather see others happy, I'd rather see others succeed that it jeopardizes my own happiness at times. I sacrifice by putting myself aside for the sake of others. Or so I thought.Just a few weeks back, a friend made me realize that I am not that selfless after all as I have my own selfish reasons for "giving my all" which is something I never really thought of in the past.
Selfishness connotes every negative adjective known to mankind: narcissistic, egocentric, egoistic, self-centered, solipsistic, navel-gazing, self-seeking, and list goes on. But as I ponder, being selfish goes hand in hand with being selfless. Both have their altas and deltas. No matter how ironic it may sound that one can be selfless yet be selfish at the same time, it definitely is possible. Just like what they say about the magnets: opposite attracts.
You can only truly say that you are selfless on the following grounds:
1. You are not expecting anything in return: We subconsciously are expecting that what we do gets reciprocated. This may be in different aspects like in helping the needy, we want to be recognized; In being understanding, patient and forgiving to our love ones: we want to be appreciated and be loved in return.
2. You are genuinely happy by making others happy: There should not be, even the tiniest feeling of regret, or a bitter taste of pain when others succeed and become happy because of you.
3. You have reached utmost contentment in life. With that, you give whatever spare you have, may it be financially, emotionally, success, or anything that is extra because you are are already overflowing with what you are sharing with others.
Being selfish is not always negative. Same as being selfless. In this world we live in, one can only do so much. My take on this? Being selfish is the gateway to selflessness, because with being such, you learn to take care of your own personal needs first in order to use that as a collateral at a later time so that you can truly help others.
I will always return to the concept of a life bucket wherein you need to fill it with happiness. How can one do it right? Simple! You just need to spend all of your time to fill up that bucket. Once it's totally full, you can then start filling others' buckets. I'd like to believe that most people don’t have their buckets full, hence, they’re always in the process of trying to fill their buckets as well as everyone else’s and they always fall short because of such.
We can’t give unless we have something to give. Unless we have something extra to give. We need to mix out passion to give with being practical. Therefore, we need to be selfish in order to be selfless. 😉
Saturday, December 31, 2016
Page 366 of 2016
Like the previous years, it has been one heck of a roller coaster ride. As expected, this year turned out to be a year full of surprises. I faced lots of challenges, in all aspects: career, family, friends, money, and love. I met people who changed my perception in life. I came across different situations that made me who I am now. This year has been a mixture of sorrow, happiness, disappointments, excitement, realization and hope. That hope that once I close this last page of the chapter of my life, the new chapter will be way better that what it has been.
Seven more minutes before the start of 2017. I hear the noise signaling that this year is really about to end. As I close the last page of this chapter, I want to thank everyone who has been part of this meaningful year.
May we all have a fruitful and blessed 2017!🎉🎉🎉
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